Arranged marriage VS Love marriage VS Bachelorhood

Arranged marriage VS Love marriage VS Bachelorhood

Mine was a love marriage. But I’m really not sure how much difference it made? I mean I feel arranged / love it’s all the same in the end. It’s marriage.

For e.g. You see a guy you get attracted to him, you like the way he makes you feel, the gifts, the galore, you get along and so you marry him.

Well, after marriage things change, suddenly the girl isn’t a girlfriend/fiancé any more but a wife, and the boy isn't a boyfriend/fiancé any more but a husband. She nags and he hates it. He expects n she hates it. Isn’t the end result the same in any kind of marriage: adjustment? So what’s the big difference in love and arranged marriages. Now look here we are in 2009, so let’s not discuss our parent’s marriages where in their arranged marriages they had not even seen each other till their marriage day, we are talking about the generation today.

Usually the criteria’s for selection for both types of marriage can be behaviour, physical chemistry, looks, family background and professional/financial background

A handsome/beautiful spouse : trust me give them 5 yrs and they’ll all have a paunch, and not cause they’ve put on some fats, it’s because of some loose muscles :P

A rich spouse: nowadays there are marraiges where the girls earn more than the guy, so I won’t take that into consideration.

Family background: Trust me with the kind of leverage our Indian government give to the so called backward class now people are profited if they are backward class

Behaviour: that’s never constant; it changes with change in everybody. So what colour a marriage can bring in a person’s behaviour the wisest can also not predict

Physical attraction: No comments on that dear, you can create and say whatever you like.

And yet I have friends my age and even elder to me complaining that they haven’t found the right guy/gal yet, and so they prefer bachelorhood. Who’s the right guy/gal? What’s a right guy/gal? It's all the same in the end!

Let's talk about bachelorhood? What’s the end result there? Guess you have a lot of freedom, but at the end of the day you either have the television / laptop / mobile / book / dog for your company! Eating alone, no one to ask how am I looking just after checking yourself in the mirror! You depend for your daily piece of conversation/argument on your friends and their free time. Isn't all this adjustment too?

So what’s left except adjustments!! Guess that’s what life’s about? It’s all about 4 people sitting on a bench meant for 3, about going to school in your dad’s car but having to get down and walk before you reach school cause there’s a traffic jam, it about eating a bhelpuri cause the panipuri’s are over, it’s about studying a subject you hate cause it’s a compulsory subject in the curriculum, it’s about going to a mall cause now garden don’t have friends to play with, it’s about being friends with someone you don’t like so much cause s/he lives close to your place, it’s about sacrificing everyday homemade food cause you’ve had to relocate for a better job, it’s about coming home to a lonely apartment cause you don’t want to compromise your life with another person, it’s about tolerating the boss cause the pay is too good, it’s about loving another person cause you want to be loved back.

So tell me who wins the debate?

Arranged marriage VS Love marriage VS Bachelorhood